I am a mom. On some days I am treated and regarded as a HERO by the entire world. While on the other days they expect me to have no life of my own!
What a striking contrast a woman faces in her life. This so-called dictation of rules by the society increases to three folds when she becomes a mom. Often the initial few months post attaining motherhood go by in a jiffy, as we are low on sleep and are getting accustomed to a new baby. But it is also during these times that we require our support groups!
As mothers, our life takes a back seat, because 24/7 we are into our children. Even when we are at work, kids are somewhere at the back of our mind! Our world literally starts revolving around them. Going-out, socializing late suddenly becomes a thing of the past. In the midst of all this, we forget that there was a time we never left our homes without a matching handbag. Cut now to Circa-Post baby, I hardly get to comb my hair.
Even when our children are a few-months-old, we often find ourselves in emotions which make us feel sad, lonely and dejected!
Among the many changes which a woman observes post motherhood is – Losing out on her friends. We wait for our children to reach a certain age and then connect with our long lost friends! And then suddenly realize how wonderful life would have been if we had we still kept in contact with each other post having kids.
I AM A MOMMY AND I NEED MY GIRL-FRIENDS FOR:
1. MY DAILY CHIT-CHAT
Funny it might seem, but I need someone to do my daily gossip. These girlfriends are the ones who remind me of my carefree days of bachelorhood when I was free as a bird. I am a mommy and I still need to revisit my college and school days. After an entire day with the family and then putting the baby to bed, I deserve at least an hour of chit-chat roundups with my girls.
2. FOR SUPPORTING MY BACK WHEN I FEEL I MIGHT JUST FALL
No, I don’t mean that literally. But every day we have those moments wherein motherhood takes a toll on us. And at the end of the day, we end up feeling tired and exhausted. It goes on to an extent that sometimes we start thinking whether motherhood was a good decision or not? It is during these days when I need my girlfriends to make me feel alright. I am sure that my girlfriends have been set down by God for this purpose only. They will make me realize that it is perfectly okay to feel sad and lonely sometimes.
3. FOR ANSWERING MY INNUMERABLE QUESTIONS ON DIAPERING, BREASTFEEDING-THE LIST IS ENDLESS!
Ever heard of a first-time mom who doesn’t have any questions about breastfeeding, diapering, blocked ducts, colicky baby? Well, I haven’t. As a first time a mom, a woman is either searching for answers to her questions on the net or bugging her family and is always connected on Whatsapp with her mommy friends! As much as we sometimes blame social media for literally taking away most of our time, we need to be thankful to it for saving us in just the knick of time! There will be those hours of midnight breastfeeding sessions, where your family might be sound asleep, but your girlfriends would always be available. (A BIG YAY FOR TECHNOLOGY).
4. FOR RECOMMENDING THE BEST BABY PRODUCTS
Because I am a first-time mom, I am really not aware of the best baby products in the market. Bingo! Yes, I need my mommy girlfriends just for that. They recommend as to which is the safest brand for my little one when it comes to baby washes and shampoos. They also don’t forget to tell me about any flash sales which happen on any e-commerce portal. And that is one reason why I am hooked on buying more and more baby products( It looks like I am building a huge stash even when I don’t need one)! No wonder homes with babies are always overflowing with different kinds of stuff.
5. FOR BEING MY EMOTIONAL CUSHION
Having a newborn can be an overwhelming experience for a first-time mom. 24/7 she is with the baby and baby-fragrance or puke is what her clothes smell like! I was no different here. There are various days when I just don’t feel myself and sometimes even my family is not able to bring out the best positive person in me! That is exactly the point where my girlfriend has that magical power to calm me down over a 2-minute phone call. She knows exactly what I am going through and pulls me out of that situation in a jiffy.
Often we mums miss out on catching out with our girlfriends, because of new commitments of a baby. Later on, as our children grow up, we start repenting those times we missed out on our lives when we were young! So mommies talk to your friends, have a support group and keep those lines of communication alive and kicking.