When your children are no longer kids, but also part adults they are called teenagers. A very big part of being teen is exploring new relationships all the time. This is obviously quiet scary for parents but that probably makes it more exciting for the teens. As parents we don’t want our kids to get hurt and therefore we try and shelter them at times. All of this is very difficult, frustrating and unhealthy. What we really need to teach our kids is the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship.
Help your teenager understand what it means to have a healthy relationship. Talk to them about respect, morals and what your teen wants out of a relationship. Tell them that it’s easy to understand and stay away from an unhealthy toxic relationship.
Give them a few boosters like :
- I would like you to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who respects you.
- I would like you to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who feel comfortable being around.
- I would like you to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who you enjoy having a relationship with.
- I would like you to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who you care about and who cares about you.
Ask them questions to understand their understanding of a relationship. Ask them what they want from this relationship. Here are a few questions you can use :
- What are you looking for in an ideal boyfriend/girlfriend?
- What would you like your relationship to be like?
- What comes to your mind when we talk about love?
- What do you think an abusive relationship looks or feels like ?
- Do you know anyone who has an unhealthy relationship?
- Why do you think that relationship is unhealthy?
Listening to the answers your children give is of utmost importance. You will get an insight of how your child’s mind work. You will get an idea of how mature they are individually.